Thursday, August 8, 2013

Jealousy and a Great Article

I've been struggling alot with jealousy. Alot. Too much. I mean, when in this grown up world are we ever satisfied with what we have? When am going to realize that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. 
I guess I always thought that being grown up wasn't about being in the cool club, having the nicest stuff, being invited to the party, but, it is. It's human nature to want to be liked. To please. It feels so childish. And maybe it is, but I also feel like it's in our nature to desire to be loved, especially as a woman. How often we seek the approval of others when really the approval we should be seeking is from our one true Lord. He knows, because He created me, that I am enough. I am who He wants me to be, as long as I am faithful to Him. 
The next time I find myself comparing myself or my life to those "who seem to have more", I will try my best to go to Him and realize I have all I need in His arms.

I wrote this a few weeks ago and I just left it sitting as a draft until now. It felt too personal to post, maybe inviting other in  too much but then a friend posted this GREAT article from the NCregister...Hit the nail right on the head! 

With all the technology we have these days, you'd really have to live a super simple lifestyle to not participate in some sort of social media! Between FB, blogs, twitter, instagram, and Pinterest, it is extremely difficult to not feel like a failure in life if you don't eat all organic food, take perfect pictures of perfect kids who are wearing the clothes you made for them while celebrating at the perfectly themed and decorated birthday party. The bar is set too high!

We are all guilty of comparing ourselves to other people. And that's what I was doing when I wrote that first part of the blog. I was looking at a particular woman's highly read blog and pictures and comparing myself to her. Why? Well, because she's pretty and popular and extremely creative and talented. I was jealous. So, instead of leading myself into temptation, I took her off all my social media feeds and my mind has been much clearer.

If we want good to come out, we must put good in. And like the article said, by now (almost 29), I know myself well enough to know what's fruitful and what's not. And I must remember that, I am enough as long as I am true to myself and honest with God. 


  1. Thank you for this. I needed it. If it makes you feel any better, I've been struggling with jealousy a lot, too. You are not alone. Off to delete things from my facebook feed. :)

  2. I love Simcha Fisher! She never fails to cut right through. Some really good thoughts about looking from the other side there as well. I tend toward the positive in my blog because most of the people who read it have been to my house and know (or can imagine) that life with 7 people under one roof is never, ever perfect.

    Congrats if you're getting this at 29! I got it, what, a year ago, which is when I left FB. I still struggle with blogs sometimes but when I get edgy I just stop reading.

    BTW, those first two paragraphs are beautiful. You are a very gifted writer.

  3. Very well said. And isn't Simcha awesome?? What I love most about the post she wrote is how much conversation it has generated among other blogs--both the widely read and those with a more intimate audience. :)